Good emotional habits
Acceptance

Meritxell Marondo


"What you are not able to accept is the only cause of your suffering."
Gerardo Schmedling


When we accept, we say a resounding yes to life. It is from that yes where the power of transformation resides, the opportunity to transcend and reconvert our attitude and, consequently, our reality. We thus become proactive and responsible for our lives. We feel that an intrinsic power resides in us and we become the true protagonist of our lives.
 
Without acceptance, we are more likely to fall into the role of victims, assuming that we have no voice or scope for action about what happens to us. With acceptance that changes. Our gaze and our approach are transformed, and because we do not observe what happens to us from the perspective of apathy or judgment, but we accept it and we decide with what attitude we have to face it. This is our power, because reality is neutral. It is only through our interpretation of it that we qualify events as positive and beneficial, or negative and dramatic. Understand that our happiness does not depend on the external but on our gaze and interpretation.

Accepting is different from resigning, although sometimes it can be mixed up. Accepting is appreciating life and respecting it in all its aspects, just as it is. With its lights and shadows, without judging, without getting frustrated by expectations that are not met and believing that things should be different from the way they are.  To accept is to believe that we have the ability to change reality, to adapt it to our interests and become frustrated with each attempt until we realize that the only things we can change is our outlook and attitude.
 
It is about filling the place that corresponds to us with humility. Accepting is also to trust. It is living fully and not half. It is taking risks without fear knowing that what happens will be optimal for our growth and evolution. Thus, whatever the results are, we accept them, we make the most of it and if necessary, we reconvert it to reinvent ourselves. We are co-creators of the reality that is given to us. We see what is there and we decide the next move, knowing that the way to face it, depends on our proactivity, attitude and predisposition, just to name a few factors.

When we welcome what happens in our life, we also give ourselves permission to live it, to feel it, and to give space to the emotions that accompanies it. We let ourselves to feel it at its fullest, we let ourselves be at our best. We free ourselves from limits and fears. When we avoid and repress emotions (sometimes unconsciously) we are denying them and therefore, we are also denying a part of ourselves.

A simple proposal to put into practice that Borja Vilaseca raises is the following:
“In the face of any type of disturbance, be it fear, sadness or anger, ask yourself a simple question: what am I not accepting? The answer will make you understand that the limitation that causes all these unpleasant reactions is in your own mind and not anywhere else. "

To accept it, is to stop wasting time and move faster. It is learning and to stop resisting truths. If you have ever resisted a situation that was not to your liking (no matter how simple or tragic it was), did you manage to change what happened? Have you paid attention when you accepted a situation?  Simply by doing so, things begin to happen, we change or transform. If you've never paid attention to it, do it next time. Energy transforms, and you have the power to do it.

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